So for today’s picture challenge I left the hotel and went to a local Walmart. What the fuck is up with people in San Diego? Apparently the considerate thing to do is wander aimlessly in the center of the aisle, oblivious to everyone and everything around you, and get annoyed when someone (like me) wants you to move the fuck out of the way so we can get shit done. Apparently I was the only person in that Walmart that wanted to get shit done.
Anyways, here’s the good morning shot:
Apparently while at this Walmart you can get a career with the Marine Corps AND get your nails done:
Apparently Jack in the Box is really popular with everyone I know that’s spent time in Cali:
and a nice palm tree that I liked but my photo taking skills can’t do it justice:
I’m going to do something new while I’m here in San Diego: I’m going to take and post 2 pictures every day until I leave, starting today, my first full day here.
Ready to go do my job this morning!
The bridge to Coronado and some of San Diego in the background
I figured it was about time I updated everybody on having a bipolar spouse, since this blog is kinda about being married to someone who is bipolar.
Well, I think that I’ve compensated for things that trigger what I’ll call negative feelings. As I think about the things I do to facilitate and comfortable environment for bRaving, I would think that good husbands do the same things; sadly I fear that many husbands do not.
So here is a list of things (off the top of my head) that I do:
-look and listen to her for indications that something is “wrong”
-provide comedic relief in the form of funny pictures from the internet and random statements that she finds humorous now, but not several years ago when we got married
-provide relief by massage
-provide relief by helping her organize thoughts and plans
-provide relief by giving her space and time to be alone, or do whatever she wants
-provide relief by loving her and not leaving
This isn’t an exhaustive list, just some of the more important ones. I’m sure she would say there is more, and I’m sure there s, but this is a good start. Most of these are generally effortless, I don’t have to think about them.
On Monday I’m traveling to San Diego for work for 2 weeks. This should be fun, because I’m attempting to minimize a third party’s intervention in some otherwise smooth running operations.
I have 2 weeks of that work, plus I’m going to finish this semester’s course work for the 3 courses I’m taking, a month ahead of schedule!
All of this also means I will be away from the wife, kids, and dog for 12 days. I will be back in town in time for my oldest son’s Tball game finale, and my daughter’s dance recital. I love all three of my babies!
Have you watched the Lego Movie? Holy shit, it is really good. We had a family movie time today and watched it; couldn’t believe it, if I’d known it would be like that I would’ve gone to the theater to see it with my wife for fun.
Feeling a bit ashamed for things that happened in my deep past lately. My cousin (adopted when he was a kid) is something like 10 years or a little less, older than me. When my wife went manic and I discovered the affairs, and remembered my deep past, I divulged all that info to him, with him being the person I would trust more than anyone else at the time, in the hopes that I could reign in the chaos of my thoughts and emotions. Since then, I am barely able to get in touch with him, which is a huge change, and I’m too embarrassed to ask him if he isn’t talking to me BECAUSE I told him all of that. He has married since then, and I can say that I don’t really like his wife. Long story short, she is heavily opinionated and I didn’t get a good vibe from her when I was around her.
Fuck it, I’m going to listen to music and go to sleep.
To survive being home with our families. They all smoke and bRaving Bipolar and I do not. My oldest son and I are affected the most, and it usually involves a lot of wheezing and difficulty breathing for days despite whatever over-the-counter medicine we take.
A positive note: we bought a 15ftx9ft tent for 20 bucks recently and gave it a try last night. Some lessons learned, my body isn’t as hard and camp-ready as it was when I was active duty, we need better padding for sleeping, more covers, and better lighting options. Preferably we could get some fold-up cots, but whatever. The kids and dog only took up 1/3 of the tent, so hell yes. Most of our gear sits around the tent (we don’t take much, a few backpacks. The dog took to sleeping on the tent as well, which is a huge plus!